As an individual, I would not want (acceptance of gay behavior) to be our policy, just like I would not want it to be our policy that if we were to find out that so-and-so was sleeping with somebody else's wife, that we would just look the other way, which we do not. We prosecute that kind of immoral behavior
I just have one question for this dude:
Where have you been???
First of all, nobody says people who commit adultery should not be allowed to serve in the military. Actually, I would go so far as to say adultery should still be considered illegal. But nobody is saying these kinds of things publicly. You know why? Because we essentially do condone adultery in the US. Men want to argue that is biological, it's not natural for men to be monogamous...and they expect serious acceptance of such arguments and the "evidence" that they present. And more and more, you hear women saying "men cheat" as if that's an inevitable fact of life rather than being about a little something called self-control...and then they marry these men anyway, and some stay with cheating men.
So, yes, adultery is condoned, and that's kind of a difference between it and homosexuality, particularly with certain kinds of people. We do not "prosecute" adultery--we engage in it. Here's another one: Adultery is a choice; homosexuality is not.
And not to say that GLBT individuals don't cheat on one another, but it's like I mentioned in my post on TLL: most of the time when I'm hearing about long-lasting, very loving and committed relationships, they are non-heterosexual relationships. And this is as a person who spends 99% of her time with heterosexuals.
Notice how I'm not addressing Pace's "immoral" comments. It's old news. Someone calls homosexuality "immoral"--big deal. Like he said, that's his opinion.
Personally, I'm glad he won't apologize. First of all, people have fallen into this pattern of saying offensive things publicly and then apologizing for it. And this is after seeing all these other people before them do the same kind of thing. To me, this signifies that you really wanted to get this off your chest...and just felt like you could get out of it by offering a fake apology later. Apologizing doesn't change anything, and it doesn't mean that you never meant what you said. Pace is basically being honest and telling us that he meant what he said. I respect anyone who stands up for who they are, even if that's being a bigot. Don't lie to me when it's obvious this is really who you are and what you think. I don't understand GLBT groups demanding an apology, given this. They have to know the person's not really sorry.
Second, we are seeing homophobic after homophobic after homophobic comment being published lately. Is this because homophobia is getting worse, or is it because it's getting more sensationalized? In other words, is the media just publishing these things more now? Is homosexuality just on more people's minds now because it's more public now? Is it just being politicized more now? I ask because I feel like a lot of gays are taking these things as a sign that homophobia is at a high. I just think it's today's hot topic. I wouldn't be surprised if editors at newspapers and magazines and TV stations were telling their writers and reporters to go out and dig up a gay slur story they can use, or if some of these people in the media are focusing on homosexuality just to draw attention to themselves.
I mean, it's not like anybody has really just fallen off the turnip truck. No one has suddenly discovered that saying anything bad about gays publicly is a problem that will draw criticism. I'm not saying these people don't really have homophobic views. I'm saying I don't believe everyone's above stooping down to using any kind of slur to draw attention. After all, who really gave a damn about Michael Richards before the "nigger" incident? And were we really thinking about Ann Coulter at all until, like, last weekend? And what's more, some of these people will stoop that low because they know a lot of people agree with them and/or will defend them. Homosexuality just happens to be the "it" topic of the times.